Family Is To Die For! #RRBC

“Some people, though related by blood, are as sworn enemies. Others, bound only by friendship, would die for one another.”

~ Beem Weeks

Author, Beem Weeks writes short stories and novels and is an ‘Indie’ – an independent, self-published writer. He serves close to 400 members of the international literary community, Rave Reviews Book Club, as a member of the Governing Board. Most importantly, he is a deep thinker and generous to a fault. His published works include Jazz Baby and Slivers of Life.

This quote by Weeks, speaks of two kinds of family: those related by blood, and those bonded by friendship. When I was a kid growing up, I don’t recall people referring to close friends as family. I do recollect the words ‘brother,’ and ‘sister’ used to describe a best friend. Today, it is very common to have people who belong to close-knit groups or associations refer to themselves as ‘family.’ What do we mean when we use the word family?

We are all aware that the family unit in western countries has transformed enormously over the last fifty years. Prime Minister Justin Trudeau’s family pictured above is the traditional model of mother, father, and children. Today we have single-parent families, families with same-sex spouses, grandparents raising their grandchildren, and blended families where divorced parents remarry and begin new families in combination with their existing children from the previous marriage. Although the family has diversified into several models, it is still characterized by blood relationships for the most part.

I am saddened to know that there are so many dysfunctional families today. This fact is at the root of Weeks’ opening statement, “Some people, though related by blood, are as sworn enemies.” How many people regularly stay in touch with their siblings and their families? How many of those that do, are close friends as well? There are many reasons why dysfunction exists among families today, but this fact underlies the reason why people become emotionally attached to groups with whom they share important things.

Author, Joy Nwosu Lo-Bamijoko, put it beautifully when she spoke about Rave Reviews Book Club,

“It is a different kind of family built on something even more solid. Here we are not bonded by blood, but by a similar spirit, the spirit of the word. This is why it is a stronger bond than the blood bond. Blood is so pedantic, so earthly, and so material. While the spirit is so liberating and almost everlasting.”

I have belonged to this club for over two years, and the fascinating thing is that we consider ourselves as a virtual family. We have not met in person, and all of our sharing and interactions take place online. As Lo-Bamijoko put it, we are bonded by a spirit, and since we are a literary community, it is the spirit of the word. As I read her words, they spoke to my heart, and I recognized them as my truth also.

Rave Reviews Book Club, the brainchild of Author, Nonnie Jules, is a body of people – mostly authors – who do not operate as rivals. We have embraced the philosophy of our foundress that all celebrate the success of one and that all band together in solidarity to support the one. This solidarity is the spirit of the word spoken about earlier. Because we promote the work of others, we liberate ourselves from the shackles of selfishness and jealousy at the success of another.

Weeks asserts that there are times when friends would die for one another. His words emphasize the fact that in a family bonded by an indomitable spirit, loyalty plays a prominent part. Even if few of us ever make it to great success in fame or fortune, we are all wealthier for the bond of this international literary family that we lovingly call Rave Reviews Book Club!

About John Fioravanti

Author, John Fioravanti writes non-fiction as well as fiction in the sci-fi genre. He's a retired secondary school educator and a lifelong learner. He considers himself a work in progress and welcomes the opinions and insights that others may have about his work. He prizes dialogue about meaningful topics, so please leave your thoughts!

30 thoughts on “Family Is To Die For! #RRBC

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    ~Mar

    November 25, 2016 at 7:34pm

    Beautiful words, John! And so very true. I adore my RRBC family and couldn’t imagine a better way to spend a good portion of my time. The bond we have is truly incredible and I thank God daily for the blessing and joy I find in RRBC. 🙂 Thank you, John!

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    yvettemcalleiro

    November 24, 2016 at 11:10am

    I could not have expressed this sentiment better had I tried. Beautiful post, John, and you are so right! RRBC is truly a family, and I feel blessed to be a part of it. 🙂

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    beemweeks

    November 24, 2016 at 9:19am

    You are indeed my brother, John! I am truly moved by this piece. You, sir, are a gifted writer with a talent for touching the soul. God bless you.

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      John Fioravanti

      November 24, 2016 at 9:23am

      On this special day of American Thanksgiving I give thanks for your friendship and inspiration, Beem! I thank you for your kind words and your unflagging support – both personally and professionally!

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    Bette A. Stevens

    November 23, 2016 at 4:44pm

    Grateful to be part of the fabulous #RRBC family and wishing everyone the Happiest of Holidays and abundant blessings every day! 🙂

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    rick watkajtys

    November 23, 2016 at 12:33pm

    P.S. So looking forward to your new book re “Reflections”.

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    rick watkajtys

    November 23, 2016 at 12:31pm

    Brother John; So happy to have you & your wife Anne as part of my extended family made possible by my relationship with the Most Blessed Francis. Have a Happy USA Thanksgiving. All the best for a Healthy & Happy Holiday Season to all & to all a good night. Brother Richard

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      John Fioravanti

      November 23, 2016 at 1:10pm

      Thank you so much for stopping by, Brother Rick! We’re happy to have you guys in our extended family too! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

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    jinlobify

    November 23, 2016 at 12:12pm

    Very well said Beem. He couldn’t have said it better, John. That is what I was hinting at. Thank you so much for sharing, and for spreading this thoughts further.

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    Natalie Ducey

    November 23, 2016 at 10:29am

    Beautifully written and so very true, John. Thanks so much for sharing this with us. 🙂

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    Mae Clair

    November 23, 2016 at 8:40am

    What a wonderful post, John. And so timely with Thanksgiving tomorrow or those of us in the U.S. It is a time of family and fellowship and of giving thanks for all we hold dear. I love the spirit of community and family in RRBC!

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      John Fioravanti

      November 23, 2016 at 9:24am

      Thanks, Mae! Although we Canadians celebrate Thanksgiving on the second Monday in October each year, we are only too aware of your Thanksgiving celebrations happening this week. Also, US Thanksgiving holds a special significance for me. It was on that day in 1970 that I left the seminary and my studies to become a Roman Catholic priest. My focus changed and I turned to a career in teaching. I left my seminary family that day – it was very hard. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!

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    Anne Fioravanti

    November 23, 2016 at 8:27am

    Love your blog today about family.
    Think you could expand on it too .
    Family defined today is very different from when we grew up. It means so much more.
    Broken families are all round us but they do emerge sometimes even stronger .
    Anne

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      John Fioravanti

      November 23, 2016 at 9:19am

      Thanks, dear, I agree – the reality of family is very complex and not easily lived. Thanks for sharing your insights today!

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    Gwen Plano

    November 23, 2016 at 4:46am

    Beautifully expressed, John, and so true. Thank you for sharing this with us today.

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      John Fioravanti

      November 23, 2016 at 8:14am

      Thanks, Gwen – my RRBC family inspired me! So thank you all for the inspiration!

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